Thoughts on Dating

I have attended a class on dating.  It's not a class to find your mate, but if it happens, great!  The class deals with issues such as setting boundaries, why we continue to make bad choices, not settling, sticking to our values and beliefs, and just getting back out there.  So I've gone out on a couple of dates.  These are men I would definitely keeps as friends.  But the to be honest, the whole idea of dating still scares me.  I've been out of the dating game after all.  I may have to kiss a few frogs, but I think in the end, it will be worth it.   

What Relationship (Update)

Many months have gone by since my initial posting.  I was not sure if I wanted to say anything further.  I was heartbroken.  He said some things that were not very nice.  We had not spoken for about eight months.  I even changed my phone number.  But as my father would say, I gave him amnesty.  We communicated again in January 2010.  As long as we did not mention love, I was ok.  Eventually, love came up again.  How does he tell me he's in love with me he said in an e-mail. (He's still engaged.)   He said he was the kind of person who told it like it is.  Well, I told him like it is to which I received no response.  That speaks volumes about him.  I had to think with my mind and not with my heart.  I  think about how things would have been  if he and I were to have gotten together.  Could I trust him?  After all he's engaged to someone else but he's telling me that he's in love with me. Would he do the same thing to me?  Regardless about how I feel about him,, I had to move on.  I need to be involved with a man who has the same values and beliefs as I.  He needs to be a man of integrity and a man of good character..  It took me a little while to believe that I deserve better and that I do not have to settle for anything less. 

The "Relationship" - chapter 2

He made me laugh like no other man had made me laugh.  He was funny; I found that attractive. But a couple a months later as we were still talking and exchanging e-mail, I could see that things were not going to change with him and the woman to whom he was engaged.  I sent him an e-mail one day and I told him we had to talk.  I was ready to tell him that we had to end this thing.  After all, he was engaged.  So I did.  That was in either March or April 2009.